Are you wondering how to go from an overwhelmed mom to a more peaceful or calm mom?
It is my goal at the Peaceful Nest to provide tips to my readers on how to create a more peaceful home life for both you and your family, this includes tips on how to stop feeling like an overwhelmed mom .
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One thing you need to know about me, I am a type B creative personality.
I also lack any natural organizational skills. It has taken alot of work on my part to continually meet the standard of peacefulness I set for our household. I want you to know if I can do it, you can too! 🙂
I created a free planner for moms like me, who want to create a peaceful home but let the stress of never having it all together defeat them, because who really ever has it together?
The best we can do is plan for peace and roll with the punches, right? If you want your free planner you can get it below!
5 Best Tips to go from Overwhelmed Mom to Peaceful Mom
If I was upset and angry, they started to feel upset and angry too. BUT if I was peaceful … aw ah
Being a mom in today’s society can be downright exhausting.
As more is added to our plates the higher our stress levels go.
Stress is not what we want for our families. How do we, as moms, go from being overwhelmed to peaceful for our children?
I am still learning, however, I have learned several different tips to create a peaceful home environment for my children.
I realized many years ago that I create the atmosphere for my home. If I was stressed, my husband and children take that stress on.
If I was upset and angry, they started to feel upset and angry too. BUT if I was peaceful … aw ah … they were peaceful too. Do you see where I am going with this?
What causes overwhelm as a mom?
In my experience becoming overwhelmed as a mom typically happens because of these reasons:
- I’m not taking enough time for myself.
- My expectations are set too high.
- I am taking on too much and I am unable to fulfill my obligations.
- My spouse and I are not on the same page when it comes to our children.
These are nowhere near the ONLY reasons a mom can feel overwhelmed, but they are typical reasons for many moms.
Motherhood will be stressful, please don’t mishear me. Peace is not the same thing as happiness.
Peace is what you have despite the events taking place around you, knowing you will be okay.
When difficulties arise in our lives, I want our home to be peaceful. A place my family knows “hey I can go there and be okay.”
5 of My Best Tips to go from an overwhelmed Mom to Peaceful as a Mom
Tip 1: Take Care of Mom
Mom = You.
Take care of yourself. Moms tend to put every other persons’ needs before their own. This will lead straight to overwhelm and burnout faster than you can imagine.
My daughters’ birthday’s are right before Christmas.
Literally, right before.
When I had our second daughter 4 years ago on the 21st, I spent 2 days in the hospital and came home on the 23rd of December.
My reasoning was simple. I wanted to be there for my family.
But here’s the thing, I was emotional, in pain, and an extra day would have been better for me and my family.
I just had my third c-section and my emotions were all over the place. Let’s just say it wasn’t a peaceful time, not for myself and not for my husband.
I should have listened to my doctor and mother and taken that extra day.
For myself.
This is an extreme example, but surely you get my point.
Take that time for yourself, it’s good for both you and your family.
Tip 2: Wake Up Before Your Kids
Ugh, I know. Seriously this is a tough one. I hate waking up early.
I realized a couple years ago, my days go smoother on the days I wake up before the kids and have the sip of coffee (alone.)
On the days I wake up with the kids, I feel rushed, chaotic and grouchy. I would rather feel relaxed than grouchy, and I know my family feels the same way.
Read: Why You Should Wake Up at 5 am.
Tip 3: Create a Routine.
Routines.
Do you love them or hate them? I have grown to love them, especially since having children. Regardless of how you feel about it, routines can help you and your family feel steady and productive.
Read: Do Children Really Need Routines?
Tip 4: Lower Your Expectations.
What are you expecting from yourself and your family? Ask yourself, is it reasonable?
Moms can start to feel overwhelmed when we put too much pressure on ourselves to be everything to everyone.
Maybe you forget to ask your spouse for help, or feel frustrated that your children aren’t meeting your every expectation.
If this is the case, try lowering your expectations. No one is perfect. Not even you.
Tip 5: Get on the same page as your spouse.
If you are married, then you shouldn’t be doing this parenting gig alone.
Figure out where you and your spouse stand on the important issues, such as discipline and finances.
When you are on the same page as your spouse, you will start to feel less friction between the two of you.
You have to start with peace in your marriage in order to have peace in your home.
The Last Thing You Need to Know about Being an Overwhelmed Mom
You will not be a peaceful mom 100% of the time. You are still learning and so am I. Give yourself grace and take it one day at a time! I know you can do it momma, I believe in you!
Do you have a tip to share with my readers? I want to hear it!
Most of my readers are moms, who are in the midst of this parenting gig.
I love to give out advice, but there are some topics that I just can’t offer advice on because I haven’t been there.
I also look at mom advice as a good pair of jeans. It’s never a one size fits all. What works for me may not work for you!
That is why I decided to start a segment on the blog that feature interviews and guest posts from other mommas. Maybe you are a momma raising 4 kids under 5 like our guest today. Maybe you have a blended family or you’re raising children unexpectedly later in life, whatever your circumstance may be, my hope is that as more moms share their advice and experience, you will be able to find something that really resonates with you.
Whether it makes you laugh or reminisce and say, hmmmm been there, or yes! finally some tangible advice. My desire is to have a large array of advice for you from moms who have been there or who are there now!
If you want to be interviewed for a guest post or have an idea in mind that you would love to talk about on the Peaceful Nest Blog, send me your ideas here! I would love to hear them.
If you are new to the Peaceful Nest Blog, welcome!
Be sure to read my top posts on parenting:
- Why Consistent Parenting Matters
- 12 Habits of Immensely Peaceful Moms
- 63 Mom Hacks That are Pure Genius
- How to Connect With Your Child’s Heart
Are you looking for ways to become a peaceful mom but you aren’t sure how?
I created a free planner for moms like me, who want to create a peaceful home but let the stress of never having it all together defeat them, because who really ever has it together? The best we can do is plan for peace and roll with the punches, right? If you want your free planner you can get it below!
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Hi there, I’m Jenna! I am a devoted mommy and wife. As well as an advocate for children and creating a peaceful atmosphere for those we love. I co-wrote Faith Actually: Living Life After Tragedy with my husband. I have my Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Studies and currently working toward my Master’s in Positive Psychology. My number one desire is to create a peaceful home life for my family. My second desire is to share with you the tips I learn along the way!