Can You Balance Everything As A Mom?

What does it mean to balance everything?

When we become moms something shifts. We are often asked how we balance everything. Regardless if you work at home, stay at home, or work outside the home. Something always remains – we are expected to be able to keep up and “balance” everything on our plates beautifully.

Can you balance everything as a mom?

The short answer? No. You cannot balance everything perfectly as a mom.

There will be days where you spend more time on your household chores, days where you rock it as a mom and your dishes are piling in the sink. There will be days you spend more time on your work assignments while your kids play on electronics. Let me tell you a secret, all of these scenarios are okay!

You will never be able to balance everything perfectly as a mom. The best thing you can do for yourself and your family is to accept this as the truth so you can enjoy your family and life without guilt.

Why does society ask moms to balance it all?

Honestly, this is a great question with many possible answers.

For some reason, society has decided that women should be able to DO IT ALL.

If we can’t then somehow we are failing as a woman and mom.

But the truth is society is wrong. No one, not even men, is capable of balancing everything. So why do we allow ourselves and other people to put so much pressure on ourselves as moms?

I truly believe this is because we have something deep down inside of us that wants to prove how good we are. We are great moms, we are great at our jobs, and we keep a beautiful home. Why? Somehow we think if we check all those boxes and then some, we will be seen as worthy.

But momma, you are already worthy. You are worthy even if your children are spending too much time on the screens and eating fast food every once in a while. You are worthy even if your laundry is left in the basket unfolded for days, and you are worthy even if your family takes priority over your work. Being a regular, human being, mom, does not make you unworthy, it makes you, well… unique and normal.

How can a mom come to terms with not balancing it all?

The picture we develop in our heads about being “the perfect mom” who balances everything perfectly can be a difficult picture to let go of.

But you can come to terms with not balancing everything with no stress by slowly letting go of that picture and developing a new one. Think about the goals you have for your family, your children, and then prioritize PEACE over productivity. If you are not feeling peaceful, if you are feeling more stressed out than peaceful your family will feel it and so will you. Let the item on the top of your to-do list that is causing you to lose your peace go for a while until you can tackle it without being stressed.

What are some lies society tells us as moms?

Society likes to lie to us as moms. We like to lie to ourselves too- we believe these lies until we don’t think there’s any other truth.

We can combat these lies from society by recognizing them as lies first and speaking the truth to ourselves when they start to sneak in.

You have to balance everything as a mom.

The first lie we believe from society is that we need to balance everything as a mom.

The truth is, no you don’t. You can prioritize different areas in your life at different times. Sometimes your work projects may take priority. Other times your family and your housework will take priority. You can learn to be comfortable with this truth. When you do, you may find that life is more enjoyable and peaceful than you thought.

If you don’t balance everything you are failing.

This is another lie that we do not have to give into.

You are not failing at anything if you allow yourself to put some plates down and quit trying to juggle everything as a mom.

In fact, not only are you not failing, but you are actually succeeding in helping yourself stay peaceful and healthy as a mom.

Your job as a mom is not important.

I have been asked before what goals I have and what I want to “do” with my life, even now as a 30 something year old woman. The truth is, the only thing I have ever truly wanted to do was raise a family and be a mom and wife.

But now we put so much emphasis on prioritizing a career over family and if you decide your desire is to be a mom and nothing else, your “job” isn’t important.

But I would say raising a family and being a mom is one of the most important jobs that a woman can have. Regardless if you also have another job outside your family or not. Being a mom is important because you are shaping a human being and the future, helping them grow into the person God created them to be, what job is more important than this?

You need to justify your choices as a mom.

Have you ever found yourself justifying your choices as a mom?

“I work outside of the home because our family needs the income.”

“Well, I am a stay-at-home mom because I don’t want to miss out on the little moments.”

“I breastfeed because… or I bottle feed because… I had a c-section because…” Just stop! You do not need to justify your parenting decisions, momma!

Are your kids fed? safe? taken care of and loved? Then nothing else matters and you don’t owe Jane Doe any explanations for the decisions you and your spouse have made for your family.

How can you let go of judgments as a mom?

Feeling judged as a mom can sometimes lead to us making decisions out of fear of what other people think.

But did you know when you let go of these “mom judgments” you will start to feel more peaceful and happier as a mom? I want to enjoy being a mom to my unique and beautiful children, not worry about what other people have to say, and let that control the way I parent my children. What about you?

You can learn to let go of these “judgments” and be the mom you want to be, not what other people want you to be. Read some great ideas how here.

What happens when we let go of trying to balance everything?

Peace happens!

The pressure we put on ourselves dissolves and allows you to start enjoying your beautiful family the way you want to. Does this mean you won’t ever feel stressed? No. Stress can be a part of life. However, when you stop trying to balance it all, eventually you will accept that you are human not super man and take the pressure off yourself to be everything to everyone. This can bring a peace to your family that you won’t want to let go of.

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Jenna Jury( Creator of the Peaceful Nest Blog )

Hi there, I’m Jenna! I am a devoted mommy and wife. As well as an advocate for children and creating a peaceful atmosphere for those we love. I co-wrote Faith Actually: Living Life After Tragedy with my husband. I have my Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Studies and currently working toward my Master’s in Positive Psychology. My number one desire is to create a peaceful home life for my family. My second desire is to share with you the tips I learn along the way!