12 More Tips To Become a Peaceful Mom

What is peaceful parenting? 

When we started on this parenting gig no one told us it was going to be this hard, right? That’s sometimes how I feel. Giving birth was the easy part. Becoming and staying a peaceful mom, that takes a ton of work. But what is peaceful parenting?

It has stretched me to become a peaceful parent. I’m not going to lie, I have been and have struggled with being a reactive mom. Reactive parenting is when you react in the moment without considering the entire situation.

It really does take some stretching to become a peaceful parent.

It’s common right? To react instead of thinking it out as a human, even as a mom.

But to be a peaceful mom, that is when we think about the outcome that we are desiring, we think about feelings and emotions and situations instead of how we are feeling in that moment.

In my post Twelve Habits to Become a Peaceful Mom I share some of my favorite ideas that have helped me become a more peaceful parent. You can read that post here. Read 12 habits of incredibly peaceful moms.

Disclaimer: You can’t be peaceful all the time. 

I want to add this disclaimer. You will not be a peaceful mom all the time. The reason I want to address is because I have received some comments from some who have misunderstood my post.

I think it’s important to realize you will not be a calm person or mom 100% of the time. I’m not a calm mom or a person 100% of the time. It’s not possible. But I do believe that it is possible to wake up every day and make the decision to try our best to be a more peaceful parent for our children. 

Why peaceful parenting can change your household around.

If you have ever been a reactive parent then you know that it can steal the joy right out of your household. It’s not fair but it’s true when they say that mom controls the tone of the house.

If you were in a bad mood most the time your family will be in a bad mood. If you are in a good mood then your family will be in a good mood. They can feel the joy vibrating off of you. They can also feel your frustration.

When you choose to be a peaceful mom every day or at least strive to be a peaceful mom it can change your household around.

12 MORE habits of incredibly peaceful moms

Here are 12 more ways that you can become a more peaceful mom today.

Focus on connection while correcting your child

There’s no doubt discipline plays a huge role in how we raise our children. You can’t raise children without discipline. But I wholeheartedly believe that discipline is different than punishment.

When we are disciplining our children we want to connect to their hearts as much as we can. Correction without connection isn’t going to get to you very far. When you are in the middle of disciplining your child try to focus your thoughts on connecting to their hearts while you are correcting their behavior. I go into more depth in this post here on how we try to connect with our children while we are correcting them.

Set positive boundaries

Everybody needs boundaries. Even adults need boundaries. If you set positive boundaries with your children this will help you feel not as stretched thin and frustrated.

Follow through

I wholeheartedly believe that follow through is important in our parenting. It is essential that your child knows your authority is not lacking. If mommy says “you are not going to get a piece of candy right now.” then your child should know mommy means business.

Far too often as moms and dads we don’t want the battle. When our child pitches a fit we will give in because we just don’t want deal with it. What so many parents don’t realize is they are teaching their child what mommy says is challengeable.

“I’ll keep pushing. until she gives in. All I have to do is ask 2 more times. Or wait 5 minutes and mommy will give me what I want.” You do not want to be challengeable when it comes to your authority. If you are, then eventually your child will be the one running your household.

Stay consistent

Staying consistent can be hard. But consistency will be your best friend in the long run. Your child will know what to expect. If you have certain rules in your house then it’s important to stay consistent with those rules even on the days where you feel like you don’t want to deal with it.

For example: if you say no dessert until some dinner has been eaten then you need to follow through and stay consistent with that rule. Doing this will help your child see the clear lines of what is acceptable and what isn’t. And when our child knows the clear line there will be less likely to push and pull against us.

Take a break

Everybody needs a break, even you as a mom. Do not be afraid to take a break either during the day or during the week for yourself.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed go in your room for a few minutes and take a breather. If you need a break from the entire household ask your husband or somebody you trust to watch your kids for a couple hours so you can get away. There is no shame and doing something for yourself as a mom.

Dance more 

Have you ever had a dance party in the middle of your kitchen? Dance parties can turn your entire day around. No joke.

If you’re feeling stressed turn on some music and have a fun dance party with your children. They will be remembered as a fun day with mommy and it’s a way you can distress from what is frustrating you.

Listen to classical music (listen, it works!)

This one might seem funny to you. But it has been proven the classical music can actually help calm you down when you’re feeling stressed. We love to listen to classical music here. It helps my children focus more on their schoolwork and it helps me relax when I’m feeling overwhelmed.

Use natural consequences

Sometimes all our child needs is natural consequences. Now there is a line when it comes to natural consequences. There are some situations that need clear consequences from mommy and daddy. For example, if your child is putting themselves or somebody else in danger then no, natural consequences will not work in that situation. If your child is running out in the middle of the road you don’t want a natural consequence.

But when the situation is something small, it is absolutely okay to allow natural consequence to take place. This will help your child learn to listen. For example, my son loves to dress himself. But he does not pay any mind to me when I tell him what the weather is going to be.

In the summer he he had been dressing like it was the middle of winter. One day over the summer he got really hot because he wore a long sleeve shirt after I told him that it was hot outside. Did I go home and get him a change of clothes? No I did not. I handed him a bottle of water and told him he’s the one that decided not to listen to me and he could roll his sleeves up. That is what a natural consequence is. Little things like that that are okay to allow.

Regulate your own emotions

We can’t help our children with their emotions if we don’t have any control over our own. Focus on regulating your own emotions and figuring out what your own triggers are. When you do, you will become a more peaceful mom guaranteed.

Validate your child’s emotions

We all want to know how we’re feeling is validated. If as adults we think our emotions need to be validated, why are children any different?

You may not understand what your child is feeling, you may even think it’s a tad bit silly. But that doesn’t mean it’s not real and important.

Validate your child’s feelings when they’re feeling strong emotions. They will feel love and valued making the power struggles less likely.

Talk to your child as an individual 

Your child is born persons. They are a whole person. Sometimes it’s easy to think of kids as not individuals with their own thoughts and ideas. But they are.

Talk to your child as though they have their own personality because they do. Talk to your child as though they have their own thoughts because they do. Your child is an individual and they want their individuality to be cherished.

Stay positive 

It’s easy to become overwhelmed and stressed out when we are being negative. Try your best to stay positive during the day even when you feel frustrated.

For every negative thought you think come up with 10 positive things in your life. This is a great exercise to turn your day around and become more positive about your life and your day today.

You can become a more peaceful mom today. 

It may not feel like it but it is possible to become a more peaceful mom! With practice, time and a whole lot of grace, you can make it happen for yourself and your family. You can start enjoying your family and household today and stop feeling frustrated all the time. 

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Be sure to read my top posts on parenting:

• Why Consistent Parenting Matters
• 12 Habits of Immensely Peaceful Moms
• 63 Mom Hacks That are Pure Genius
• Connect With Your Child and Build Up Their Heart

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