Do you want to be a peaceful homemaker but you are unsure where to start?
You’ve been there too, haven’t you?
Sitting in the middle of your floor, surrounded by baskets of laundry begging to be folded. And it’s not like this laundry is fresh out of the dryer. No, ma’am. Those baskets have been sitting there for five days straight mocking you.
Maybe you don’t feel like a peaceful homemaker. You look over to see your dirty dishes piling out of the sink. There sits your oldest child at the table growing impatient while she waits for you to help her with school work. Next to you sits your youngest child begging you to play a game with her, laying the guilt trip on strong.
You glance at the refrigerator and remember you forgot to plan something for dinner.
It’s almost 5 o’clock and bedtime feels too far away.
Chaos. It’s all you feel. Where is peace? Is creating a peaceful home even a reality anymore? Can I really be a peaceful homemaker?
You’re tempted to grab the box of chocolates, run to the bathroom and hideout until reinforcements arrive.
I can’t be the only one.
The past couple of weeks I have taken a short break from writing.
I had decided to not spend as much time on social media actually and not writing was consequential of that.
The reason I decided to take my social media accounts off my phone was that I had been complaining about how I couldn’t find any time to get everything that NEEDED to be done, done.
Then I realized “Jenna you are being so foolish. There are 24 hours in a day and you work from home. You waste away your time when you could be more productive.”
So that is when I decided to take a break.
My social media accounts are still off my phone but I will be checking more often and of course, writing more now too!
Related Read: Social Media is Stealing This From You (And You’re Probably Letting it!)
Since becoming a wife and mom I have been on a discovery to create and maintain a peaceful home. I want to be a more peaceful homemaker.
I love sharing with you what I have learned about creating a peaceful marriage and becoming a peaceful parent. Now I want to talk about how to have a peaceful home. I have touched briefly on how we cannot achieve peace in our homes and with our families until we have peace with ourselves.
This is easy to say but is it even remotely easy to achieve? I believe, if you want peace in your life you have to put it at the forefront of your mind.
Are you doing all you can to reach peace?
If you have peace in your home and life are you doing all you can to protect it and maintain it?
Peace in today’s society can be difficult to come by.
There are so many different things pulling at us.
Mom’s have several thoughts bouncing around in their heads.
Jobs, education, our kids’ education, marriage, finances, devotional lives, extracurricular activities for our kids, to name just a few.
There are so many distractions that can cause a chaotic household out there.
Become a peaceful homemaker takes work. Peace within yourself, your home, your family, or your life is not something that just falls into your lap.
You must really want it and you have to work at it. But it is possible to grasp and so very worth it.
So how do you reach this peace that I keep talking about?
Does it really exist?
Is it really important?
Can you really have a peaceful home life and family?
Yes, it does exist. And yes, it is important. Yes you can.
I have found several ways that I maintain peace within my home and family that I want to share with you below.
10 Ways to Become A Peaceful Homemaker
SPEND TIME BY YOURSELF
This one is tough.
As a mom when do you ever get time by yourself? If you are anything like me your children and dog follow you straight into the bathroom and stare at you while you are trying to use the restroom.
Or if you shut the door they bang on it.
Motherhood doesn’t offer much time alone.
That is why you have to make time.
Get up earlier than your children. Spend time with the Lord. Get your exercise done for the day. Meditate. Eat a healthy breakfast. Or just sit in the silence of your home before it becomes chaotic.
I typically struggle with this. It’s true, I like my sleep. I am not a morning person. But I make a concrete effort to get up before my children.
Most days I can.
When I do, I feel more prepared for the day.
If getting up is a struggle for you but you can catch some time to yourself at nap time or after bedtime, do it.
Instead of worrying about what needs to get done at nap time, spend that time alone by yourself. Doing this will do more for your inner peace than you realize.
KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES.
In today’s society, especially as women, there is a lot of pressure to do it all. But we cannot do it all. And when we become so focused on all we have to do it is then when we can feel our inner peace slipping.
A few weeks ago I took a look around at my messy house, my schedule, the unprepared dinner on the counter, and I had a breakdown. I beat myself up about how I couldn’t do it all.
It was just too much.
There were piles of laundry. A dinner I didn’t have time to cook, bills that needed to be paid, and so much more.
Then I realized I was getting my priorities mixed up and putting too much pressure on myself to do it all. My priorities will always be God, my husband, and my children in that order.
Now, your priorities may look different than mine and that is okay. My husband and children come before any job I have or anything else.
Money is great, it buys many things, but the time I have with my children I can never get back.
We decided we could live on less and I can stay home with my children if it meant my entire household was at peace.
It is important to know your priorities.
So ask yourself. What is important to you? Are you trying to do too much? When you decide what is important and what isn’t, it gets easier to shrug the commitments that aren’t important off. This is vital to becoming the peaceful homemaker you want to be.
GIVE YOURSELF GRACE.
This goes along with knowing your priorities. Give yourself grace sweet mom. You do not have to do everything. Remind yourself of this when you start to feel overwhelmed.
I tell myself often “we live in our home” when I start feeling stressed about the messiness around me.
Allow yourself to make mistakes.
And allow yourself a break.
Allow yourself to forget about cooking dinner and just pop in a pizza instead. Allow yourself to have fun and give yourself grace when you don’t feel up to par.
Is anyone perfect?
No, they aren’t.
That is okay.
What is perfect anyway if you don’t have peace to go with it? Your inner peace and your family’s peace is more important than a neat and tidy house every single day.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE.
What is it that you love?
Do you love being a stay at home mom? Is it possible for you to do it? Then do it.
Do you love working? Then work.
Do you love to write? Then don’t waste another day and start writing.
Do what you love to do. Being stuck in a career, or place, or area that you feel miserable at does not help you feel peaceful.
I have heard that your “feelings don’t pay the bills” and that is true. However, staying at a job that you hate will add no value to your life.
All it will do is make you more miserable.
I understand that it’s not possible for everyone to do something they absolutely love but a concrete effort should be made. If you have to work try to work somewhere you like.
If you can’t then try to at least find a hobby that you enjoy. Something that you love to do that will bring you happiness and joy.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
As mothers, we put everyone above ourselves most of the time. But taking care of yourself both physically and emotionally is important to your children and to the state of your household.
Taking care of your physical health and making it a priority should be important for a few reasons. You are showing your children that health is important and they should be healthy too.
Also, although accidents happen and you never know how long you will be on earth, when you are taking care of yourself you are doing your part in striving for long and healthy life.
Emotional health is also important. This is why I choose to write about Peace. Taking care of yourself is a step in the right directing to achieve peace within yourself.
GIVE GRACE TO OTHERS.
And give those you love grace.
Give grace to your children.
Did your child spill her milk? Before you chastise her for being clumsy remember that accidents do happen to everyone and the likelihood of her doing it on purpose was probably slim to none.
Give grace to your husband.
Did he load the dishwasher in a way that you hate? Instead of nagging him, try doing it yourself.
Give grace to your family members.
Do you not see eye to eye with your siblings or parents? Let them have their opinions and you have yours. You are different people after all.
Give grace to your friends.
Did your friend say something offensive? Instead of jumping to conclusions think about what your friend actually meant.
Along with giving grace to those we love, we should give grace to everyone else.
That person that cut in front of you while you were driving, give them grace. You never know, they may have just had the worst day of their lives. Maybe they lost someone they loved or a job, or maybe they are rushing to the hospital.
Give grace to the person who hurt you whether intentionally or unintentionally. Don’t hold grudges against them. Instead, forgive. Every one of us is just humans. Every one of us thinks differently, act differently, and have different opinions and thoughts.
Give grace, give forgiveness, let the grudges fall away and you will start to see that you feel more peaceful and less irritated.
DON’T INDULGE IN GOSSIP.
Gossip is a nasty time-waster in my opinion. It is a way people kill time and make themselves feel better.
Do yourself a favor and stay away from gossip. Don’t indulge in it.
Don’t hang around people who gossip.
I always tell my youngest sister, if they are gossiping to you, chances are they are gossiping about you.
What gossip does is takes someone’s reputation and tarnishes it, creates lies and exaggerations then turns around and steals your inner peace.
Whether the gossip is true or not ask yourself this “is it any of my business?”
When you indulge in gossip about other people your mind is taken off of your priorities and is put on a story about someone else that may or may not be true.
Frankly, what a person that is not living under my roof does or doesn’t do is none of my business. When you steer away from this quicksand your life becomes much more drama free and more peaceful.
Trust me. It is well worth it when you want to be a peaceful homemaker.
SPEND TIME WITH GOD.
I wake up every morning and spend time with God. And I enjoy this quiet time in His presence.
I am reminded of His love for me and the sacrifice that He made when He gave his only son on the cross.
I pray for many things but especially for the day ahead of me. This time with Him resets me. It gets my mind ready for the day. It is a vital part of my day.
REMEMBER IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO.
Sometimes I think that we start to feel stressed out and lose our inner peace when we say yes to too many things. It is easy to feel pressured to say yes to everything that is asked of us but sometimes we just have to say no.
That is okay.
Your peace and the peace of your family is just that important. I am a homebody. There’s nothing I love more than staying home with my family and doing nothing except spending time alone with them.
I try not to make mine and my family’s schedule too full because this time together is precious as well as important.
My kids enjoy the downtime and the time alone with me and my husband. My husband enjoys it. This is why I limit activities for my daughters.
My 6-year-old is about to start soccer this Spring.
She also wants to do gymnastics and take swim lessons. Although I was tempted to let her do them all, I said no she can only pick two.
This is because I want her to understand the importance of downtime and also because it is my job to make sure my daughter’s life is peaceful.
What are some ways you can protect that peace for your family? What are other ways you can create a peaceful home life? How do you practice being a peaceful homemaker?
Are you saying yes too much?
Are your kids running ragged in too many activities?
Remember it is always okay to say no.
Self Care.
As mothers’ we tend to neglect ourselves as we care for the needs of others.
But self-care is important to our mental health as well as our physical health.
You cannot draw from an empty well. Take the time to go out by yourself. Take a bath. Go on dates. Speak kindly to yourself. Go to the doctor.
Take care of yourself too.
Our children will also see how we take care of ourselves and emulate that into their own lives as they grow up.
Peace is SO important. It is possible to be a peaceful homemaker.
You cannot reach peace in your marriage or with your children or have a peaceful home until you have inner peace.
I hope that you have found something helpful in today’s post that you can take away with you to help achieve a peaceful home life and protect it.
If you want to read more about creating a peaceful home and become a peaceful mommy, check out 12 ways to be a more peaceful mom and tools I use to make my life more peaceful as a mom!
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Hi there, I’m Jenna! I am a devoted mommy and wife. As well as an advocate for children and creating a peaceful atmosphere for those we love. I co-wrote Faith Actually: Living Life After Tragedy with my husband. I have my Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Studies and currently working toward my Master’s in Positive Psychology. My number one desire is to create a peaceful home life for my family. My second desire is to share with you the tips I learn along the way!