How to Become A Gentle Mom

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How to become a more gentle mom

What is reactive parenting?

Do you ever feel like a reactive parent? Maybe you want to become more peaceful and gentle mom with your children but you aren’t sure how. It can become easy to be a reactive mom.

Being a reactive parent is when you react to situations without thinking about what is most important.

I’m not gonna lie, I have been a reactive parent. Sometimes I feel like I am too harsh of a mom because I let my emotions get the better of me.

But you don’t have to stay stuck as a reactive mom.

Does reactive parenting steal from you?

Whether we want it to or not reactive parenting does steal from us.

First, it Steals your time.

When we are reactive parents, it can steal the time we have with our family and children. This is because we spend so much time being frustrated and cranky towards our family that we don’t notice the time passing us by.

Reactive parenting also steals your joy.

When you’re a reactive parent you spend a lot of time being frustrated with things that are not as important as they seem. You may forget to enjoy your children in the here and now.

If we spend our entire day being frustrated and cranky that’s a day we have wasted. We will never get that time back. You will never have the opportunity to be joyful throughout that day again.

Reactive parenting takes your peace.

Here at the peaceful nest, I like to keep myself accountable for creating a peaceful home for my children and my family.

Being a reactive mom and a cranky mom can steal the peace that we have and the peace that we are trying so hard to create for our families.

What is gentle parenting?

What is gentle parenting? Many people have different ideas about what gentle parenting entails. To me, gentle parenting means recognizing who your child is while you’re parenting. Remembering that your child is a human with real feelings and real thoughts separate from you. Then using this knowledge to parent your child the best way you can.

Say goodbye to harsh mommy.

You can say goodbye to harsh mommy today. You do not have to stay stuck as a cranky and reactive mom. A mom who is frustrated with her children and doesn’t feel peaceful. Does this mean that you will always be peaceful? No. We all have our days where we do not feel peaceful. No one has it together 100% of the time. Not even me. But we can become more peaceful as time goes by the more we practice being gentle parents.

Work on self-care first.

One of the first things you need to do is work on self-care. If you neglect yourself, then you will be pouring from an empty cup. It’s natural in society to take on the martyr as a mom. We think we have to sacrifice everything that makes us, us, to be good mothers. But the truth is far from accurate. To be a peaceful and gentle mom you need to take care of yourself. Here are several suggestions that can help you get started with self-care as a mom.

Count to 20 before responding.

Sometimes it’s easy to react right away. To be a reactive mom when something goes wrong in our families or when we’re feeling frustrated with our children. But you don’t have to stay stuck as a reactive mom. You can become a gentle mom. One way that helps me calm myself is counting to 20.

I know it sounds super simple. That is because it is. If you take a breath and count to 20 before you react to your children or a situation you’re frustrated about, it can help you calm down.

Soften your heart.

What do I mean soften my heart? To be a gentle mom you have to have a soft heart towards your children. It’s easy to let frustration and annoyance harden our hearts. We don’t always see it happen. But to be a gentle mom it’s important to soften our hearts. This brings me to my next point.

Remind yourself that your child is human.

Your child is a human. Just like you. They have their thoughts and their feelings and their way of understanding things. Your child is not a carbon copy of yourself.

When we start to see our children as little people with their thoughts and ideas. When we start to see our children as a human, that’s when we start to become more tender with them. Because we all know as adults we are not perfect. Neither are our children.

Practice do-overs daily.

Practicing do-overs as a family can help you become a more considerate mom. What do I mean by do-overs? A do-over is when you ask your child if they would like to start the day over if you are both feeling frustrated. Or if you are feeling frustrated start the day over with a fresh slate. This requires you to put away your pride and start again, it is that simple.

Do not be afraid to apologize.

Have you ever apologize to a child? It is one of the most humbling experiences you will ever have. I have learned in life children are some of the most forgiving people on this planet. When you apologize to your child after losing your cool, or when you know that you owe them an apology, it helps you let go of pride. This also shows your children that even adults make mistakes and apologizing for your mistakes is very important.

Surround yourself with a tribe.

Find people who you can surround yourself with, people who will help you during this parenting thing. People with who you can bounce ideas off of and share your heart.

Forgive yourself.

Like I said before parenting is not easy. We all make mistakes as moms and parents. Forgiving ourselves can help us deal with the pride that we may have. Learning to forgive ourselves can help soften our hearts. When we soften our hearts, it becomes easier to be a gentle mom.

Try to focus on the connection while correcting.

Discipline is an important part of parenting. But I fully believe discipline is completely different than punishment. Practicing connecting with your child’s heart during correction is a great place to start. Here are simple techniques that can help you connect to your child’s heart while you are correcting their behavior.

Why does gentle parenting work?

Gentle parenting works because it puts connection over everything else. Connection with your child helps them thrive, learn, and grow. As moms, that’s what we want for our children. We want them to learn how to flourish in this world. We also want them to feel nourished and loved. Gentle parenting can help you give this to your child.

Why does it matter?

The way we parent our children matters because we are helping shape who they are and who they will become. No, no one is a perfect mom. No one has it all together. We all make mistakes. But we can get up every day and decide to do our very best for our children. Sometimes we will come up short, and that is OK. As long as you’re trying your very best every day that is what matters.

You can become a peaceful mom today.

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